one of the pros of taking time of blogging: only the die hard readers remain. and i think that pool of people can probably handle the following.
as you might know, one of the highlights of my work in youth ministry is talking to kids about sex. i mean that. i’ve never left a sex talk thinking, ‘that was boring…’ or, ‘i wish i spent more time at my desk, preferably wearing a suit and heals.’ no, sex talks are always challenging, always enlightening, and always very real. and i get to wear a t-shirt and flip-flops. can’t beat that.
the 9th grade sex talks were especially good this year. i think we just got off on the right foot… there was a power outage at our first meeting, so we had the entire discussion about “angels and animals” by candlelight. mmmm hmmm. way to set the mood.
but the last 9th grade talk is what assured me that we had accomplished at least one of our objectives: letting kids know that church is a safe place to talk about sex.
here’s what happened…
we were talking about ways to take care of ourselves spiritually, emotionally and physically in relationships.
“how do we stay physically healthy?”
“eat right and exercise.”
“ok… and in relationships? and sexual relationships?
one guy raises his hand, “uh, use contraceptives?”
“actually, contraceptives just keep you from getting pregnant… they don’t actually keep you from getting sick. the birth control pill is one example of a contraceptive. can somebody give me another?”
same guy says, “pulling out?”
“huh, well, yeah, there’s that. definitely NOT the most reliable method…”
another guy interrupts, “wait… what exactly is the pull out method? i mean, i can kinda use my imagination, but…”
“sure. no worries. it’s when the guy pulls his penis out of the woman’s vagina before he ejaculates. really not a good method AT ALL.”
“that’s pretty much what i imagined.”
see what i mean? mission accomplished. i promise there were much more meaningful learning moments throughout the night… and year, really… but this at least shows the kids are comfortable. whew. time to start planning next year.