i tend to think of myself as a very easy going, not angry, pretty forgiving person. i’m a people pleaser. and getting angry doesn’t please people too much. but recently i’ve found that i’ve been harboring some anger, without even knowing what or who i’ve been angry about. i have a tendency to gloss over hurt rather than dealing with it.
but this doesn’t lend itself to forgiveness at all… in order to forgive, i first have to acknowledge the hurt and walk through the accompanying feelings. i don’t need to lash out, but i don’t need to ignore my feelings either.
so don’t let the sun go down on your anger (ephesians 4:26), but do let yourself realize your anger so you can forgive.