well, we did it. we got married. though i did get a call from the register of deeds saying they are missing a witness signature on our marriage license, so i guess we’re not legit yet? but our hands have been joined and our vows have been exchanged, and two have become one.
every time i talk to one of my parents or to my friends, everyone says (even if they’ve said it before) that our wedding was perfect. and it really was. it’s amazing it went as smoothly as it did, given i moved up to NYC the week before for orientation… and truly thought about wedding stuff very little. no time to! let me tell you why the wedding was perfect.
a LOT of friends and family made it so.
sloan and jamie let me (and pepper!) stay with them the month leading up to the wedding. sloan helped me put together programs. lois ann carted me all around town to pick up stuff for hospitality bags (when i had no car) and then helped me put them together, and then dropped them off, and then hosted my pakifam. boriana made our slideshow. jenny and michael set up the projector for our slide show. alice helped us figure out our wine and beer list. molly gave us a 20% coupon to use on our mac’s bbq catering bill. aaron picked up the kegs and paid off our wine vender. eric managed the kitchen and bussed the tables during the reception while his daughter washed dishes. nikki ran the whole reception and sweat buckets putting up and breaking down tables. lilian helped me wash all the pint glasses we gave as favors. john tended our bar. anne and stark helped out with flowers. lori lent me her veil and earrings. colleen lent me her fastenator (flowers for my hair). chris worked his magic on the organ, allie and katie sang beautifully, and aaron’s rendition of “shenandoah” on the mandolin was awesome. my dad and wade totally transformed the blue room into a true reception hall. donna and greg threw an awesome rehearsal dinner. my mom bought me the most beautiful wedding gown. my aunts threw me a lovely bride’s lunch, complete with vases and tea cups they flew up from TX that belonged to my great grandmother. farhan did a wonderful job reading, as if he were speaking directly to us. verdery and john celebrated a beautiful marriage blessing and eucharist. chip blessed us and the reception. jamie brought pepper to us before the wedding so we could take pictures with her. meggan and channing and my brothers picked up my dress. mary brooks made took care of anna and baby stella. john acolyted. eden made yummy desserts. aaron, dick, nate, jesse, pete, paul, stephen and pierce all stood by jay and kept him sane and made us feel SO special for being there–no matter the distance. sloan, caitlin, erin and julie kept me sane as well as entertained, making sure i ate and drank, and just made me feel so loved. steve and farrell let us crash their cabin for our 2-day minimoon. and that doesn’t even include the people we paid to do stuff (our wonderful photographers, etc)…. are you getting the drift? our wedding was perfect because we had A LOT of HELP!!!! and from FRIENDS, all of them!
things that i thought were perfect:
jay’s grandpa’s blessing at the rehearsal dinner. the toasts (and roasts). the girls’ dresses/flowers/necklaces–they just looked perfect! they boys’ suits/ties/pocket squares–it all looked so sharp! my dress–it really was stunning, and i felt like the most beautiful girl i’ve ever been. our moms–they were so beautiful, and we love them. our dads–they both kept their cool and kept us cool too. our granddads–how blessed are we that we each had a grandparent come all the way to charlotte. the order of service–every hymn, reading and prayer was handpicked especially for us. our food–who doesn’t love bbg? our friends–they would have partied all night long if they could have. even things that didn’t seem perfect at first were perfect after all–like our first dance that we thought went too long, but enjoyed it anyway because we realized it was probably the only time we’d get to talk until the reception was over. and when it was over, we came back to the hotel and sat on the bed, still in our wedding clothes, going through the amazing photo-guestbook our guests help put together, reading cards to each other from friends and family, and laughing at the sheer beauty and blessedness of the day and our memory of it.
not to mention jay–the perfect partner for life for me–who loves so sacrificially and supports me so fully.
i titled this blog “this is my solemn vow” because i said those words with so much intention and deliberateness at our wedding–every phrase of our vows i said as emphatically as i possibly could to jay, because i know how blessed i am to be bound to him. like, ‘hey, monkey, i REALLY mean EVERY word of this! i want you to know i mean this as much as i can possibly mean anything ever.’ i (like every bride, i would hope) am completely convinced i am the luckiest girl in the world for marrying jay.
so anyway, that’s a very long description of a very special day, made perfect by the people we love! and while it may not be the most interesting blog post ever, i just can’t say thank you enough. thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone that made our day perfect. we will carry the memory of that day and your role in it with us forever. thank you.