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love, runs, heartache and not-runs

Jay and I just returned from one glorious week in the real upstate, as we like to call it.  My third summer in the Finger Lakes did not disappoint.  Jay’s sister Julie gave us the perfect excuse to drop all the things stressing us out in NYC and escape to the countryside.  She got married.

Highlights of Julie’s wedding include: her attention to detail in making every moment personal and true to her style, Jay’s beautiful solo at the ceremony despite not performing music in years, the family I count myself blessed to be part of, and just the fun of it all–especially watching Jay and Julie’s dad cut a rug like we never knew he could!  Julie and her husband Brian have been together for seven years now, so this was one of those weddings where you just sit back, relax, and watch love unfold.  They are tried and true together.

While upstate, I got to run.  I ran 3 miles of trails near Jay’s house, 8 miles of rolling hills near the cottage at Port Bay (Jay borrowed a neighbor’s bike and rode beside me the whole time to keep me hydrated, safe, and entertained), 4 miles along that same road, and finally a 5k race at Sodus Bay.  The Lighthouse 5k is a 4th of July tradition in the Holder household.  Truthfully, I was dreading it a bit.  It’s a hot and hilly course that starts later than I’d like.  I failed to finish this same race 2 years ago and the “DNF” cloud was hanging heavy over my head Wednesday morning.  Add to that the fact that my last 2 races have been ably paced by friends–this time I’d be running solo.  In the end, I was pleased with the results.  I barely missed 3rd in my age group, but I was a top-ten female finisher–goals like these are reasonable in little races!

Jay’s running days are another story.  After over 2-months of IT Band Syndrome, he has seen 3 false-starts and little improvement.  This means he a) lacks a much needed release after working long hours at an extremely stressful job, b) misses the social outlet that his team provides, and c) struggles to feel like himself when so much of his identity is tied up in running.  After sober consideration and some soul searching, Jay made the difficult decision to back out of the Philadelphia marathon this November that he planned to run with all his Charlotte buddies.  He’ll still be there for the reunion and to give support, but competing is out of the question.  Needless to say, we’ve had some gloomy moments in the Holder household.

We celebrate and we pout.  Gladness and sorrow, sickness and health… at least we’re leaning into our vows.

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b’more & buffalo

okay here it is… the weekend roadtrip synopsis.

it started in baltimore, where i landed just in time for a lovely dinner with christina and andy (soon to be married) at pazo. sadly, christina’s car broke down, so i had to leave them to wait for the tow truck while my friend john picked me up and took me to the ole’ neighborhood standby, ropewalk.

From 2008 Fall

if you don’t know it already, ropewalk is a “republican bar” which really just means that the owners are republicanists and they aren’t afraid to show it. doesn’t really describe the clientele, though. anywhoo… a picture with the gipper is a must. lots of great friends came out to catch up (laurel and david came up from dc!) and that was awesome.

mike and i hit the road early saturday, bound for buffalo. we arrived just as mollie’s plane from denver landed, so we picked her up and drove to canada (yes, we all had our passports) in time to see niagra at sunset.

From 2008 Fall

we did get lost on the way. we accidentally drove north of niagra, but didn’t realize it until we were crossing the (wrong) bridge into canada. there was no way to turn around, so we just waited in line. the security was so chill (and cute!! mollie and i wanted to steal the guard and take him with us!!). he laughed once he figured out we were lost (such a cute laugh it was, too) and pointed us in the right direction. the drive was beautiful! all the changing leaves and rolling hills, ahhh. finally we made it to niagra falls.

From 2008 Fall

one thing about canadians… they love their snails. snails have the right of way!

we drove back to buffalo for a little party at the “love shack” (the bride’s maiden name is love… it’s cute) where we caught up with lots of friends that i hadn’t seen in months. awesome.

sunday we stopped by the anchor bar, birthplace of buffalo wings, for some yummy finger lickin’ food.

From 2008 Fall

this came at the recommendation of susan and others, and i have to say, it is a must when in buffalo. my mouth is watering now just thinking about it!

finally, the big occasion was upon us… the start of adam and bethany’s marriage. i have to say, this was one of the neatest weddings i’ve ever witnessed, even before it started. their invitations were thoughtful, true, and humble. no response cards were used, saving lots of paper and expense. over and over again, throughout the engagement, wedding and reception, adam and bethany continually pointed to Christ in their relationship.

From 2008 Fall

it was (and is) beautiful.

then dancing ensued…

From 2008 Fall

and the shenanigans began.

eric, the best man, did an awesome toast. our table was literally reeling with laughter, though some of it might have gone over the general public’s collective heads.

From 2008 Fall

i have since learned that you can look at best man speeches on youtube… this is apparently how the modern best man gets all his toast material. very unoriginal, and yet hugely successful! i imagine eric was the only one to quote both emily post and amy vanderbilt, though, paragon of etiquette that he is.

monday we made our way back to baltimore, so excited to stop at sheetz, the best gas station in the world, along the way.

From 2008 Fall

where else can you order a side of mac & chili? yum. erin and i had lots of girlie talk and catch up time in the car, which was awesome.

we came home to keegan!

From 2008 Fall

the best little nephew in the world.

christina joined us all for dinner and then she and i went back to her place for hours of uber productive wedding planning (she’s the bride, i’m the maid of honor) and just good ole’ sister time.

it was, by far, the best weekend ever. and there you have it.

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so excited

this time tomorrow, i’ll be on a plane to BALTIMORE! the city that claims my heart. i’m headed to adam & bethany’s wedding, which is actually in buffalo, but i’m flying into b’more JUST so i can get an extra 20 hours of quality time (in the car) with my friends. AND i get to do some wedding planning with the lovely christina, due to be married in may! i’m so excited about his weekend, i can hardly stand it!!!! start warming up the beer taps at ropewalk… lau’s coming home.

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onion love

one of my favorite people in the world, who happens to be horrible at updating her blog or sending emails, yet wonderful at “superpoking” and keeping up with my blog, is engaged. i found out via text message last night… oh, how times have changed.

i’m going to call susanne as soon as i finish typing this post to check the facts, but i believe she and ryan met online… and not just any old internet dating service… but the classifieds on the onion. the onion, if you don’t already know it, is one of america’s oldest ironic news sources. it is the mother of all pop-culture political satire that has peppered our media this past decade. and thank goodness… one needs a sense of humor to survive.

i have friends that have met online and married before… but this is the first onion love i know of. makes me wonder if my friends’ threat to give me an online dating membership for my birthday wasn’t such a bad idea after all.


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